i heard an”expert” on one of the morning shows say that tiger woods is not a sex addict, he is a love addict.
heretofore, i was unaware that there was such a thing as “love addiction” but, lo, i found it to be a common emotional malady (praise google). not only is love addiction a recognized psychological disorder, but there is a bona fide twelve-step program for love addicts. on their website (loveaddicts.org) i found a description of love addiction…
Love addiction comes in many forms. Some love addicts carry a torch for unavailable people. Some love addicts obsess when they fall in love. Some love addicts get addicted to the euphoric effects of romance. Others cannot let go of a toxic relationship even if they are unhappy, depressed, lonely, neglected or in danger. Some love addicts are codependent and others are narcissistic. Some love addicts use sex to manage feelings; others are sexually anorexic. What we all have in common is that we are powerless over our distorted thoughts, feelings and behavior when it comes to love, fantasies and relationships.
wow. i guess robert palmer wasn’t kidding.
when it comes to tiger woods, brit hume was right. when asked to predict what would be the biggest sports story of 2010, hume said:
Tiger Woods will recover as a golfer. Whether he can recover as a person I think is a very open question, and it’s a tragic situation for him. I think he’s lost his family, it’s not clear to me if he’ll be able to have a relationship with his children, but the Tiger Woods that emerges once the news value dies out of this scandal — the extent to which he can recover — seems to me to depend on his faith. He’s said to be a Buddhist; I don’t think that faith offers the kind of forgiveness and redemption that is offered by the Christian faith. So my message to Tiger would be, ‘Tiger, turn to the Christian faith and you can make a total recovery and be a
great example to the world.’
in my humble opinion, hume’s advice applies to tiger’s sin problem as well as his love addiction problem. and i ought to know: i have a sin problem, too. and while i’m at it, let me go ahead and confess that i, too, am a love addict (and i have a pretty good idea that you are, too). a long time ago, though, i received some really good news. the bible says it this way…
Love comes from God. Everyone who loves is born of God and experiences a relationship with God. The person who refuses to love doesn’t know the first thing about God, because God is love—so you can’t know him if you don’t love. This is how God showed his love for us: God sent his only Son into the world so we might live through him. This is the kind of love we are talking about—not that we once upon a time loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to clear away our sins and the damage they’ve done to our relationship with God. My dear, dear friends, if God loved us like this, we certainly ought to love each other. (1 John 4:7b-12)
i never imagined that i would have something in common with tiger woods, but there it is. i needed love. i was sick of the hopeless feeling, and addicted to the idea of finding real, everlasting love. jesus provided that for me by coming into the world, living a sinless life, and taking my sin upon himself and nailing it to the cross.
god is love. i am addicted to love.